In which I start to give up hope

Sometimes, there are no words.

Three boys ages 8 and 9 were being held Monday in a detention center on charges of kidnapping and raping an 11-year-old girl in the woods near a suburban apartment complex, officials said.

The alleged attack happened Thursday and the girl’s mother reported it to authorities Sunday, Acworth police Capt. Wayne Dennard said.

“The juvenile victim stated that an 8-year-old boy and two 9-year-old boys that she had been playing with earlier pulled her into a wooded area, where one of the boys raped her,” Dennard said.

The three boys were charged with rape, kidnapping, false imprisonment and sexual assault, Dennard told The Atlanta Journal-Constitution. Their names were being withheld because of their age.

Well, okay, maybe a few words:

The only thing I can imagine to be more unrealistic and utterly unbelievable than 8 and 9-year-old boys raping someone is that an 11-year-old girl would make up such a story and have anyone believe her unless she was highly credible and there was some sort of  physical evidence. And though a PIV assault is a physical possibility, “rape” doesn’t necessarily mean that forced intercourse took place, but  it does probably mean that there was forced penetration of some sort.

I’m utterly baffled, and have no idea what to say to this 11-year-old girl. But who the hell do you blame? I do know that the boy who actually did the raping is either a raging psychopath/sociopath who needs to be removed from the community or is in just as desperate need of help as the girl he raped is.

And though I think that it’s likely that the young rapist is a victim of sexual abuse himself, I do not think that either his actions or especially the actions of his accomplices can be removed from the cultural messages that they are bombarded with on a daily basis, which condone and promote rape. It’s not just the college guys getting women drunk until they pass out or high school guys that won’t stop groping no matter how much their girlfriends beg that we have to worry about getting the wrong message, anymore. These boys are children.  And if that’s not a wake up call, I don’t know what is.

0 thoughts on “In which I start to give up hope

  1. mom

    Ah. I sort of hate your blog, but that’s okay I guess. In fact, it’s the point. We need a serious intervention in masculinity if we are ever to really help reduce violence against women. Simply telling girls not to get raped doesn’t work. We know this, but when you see a male culture that i so toxic that by 8 and 9 years old there is a clear message that phyiscal violence and sexual conquest are desirable traits. This is tweening, perhaps, the logical outcome of KAGOY.

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  2. Cara Post author

    I’m hoping that you mean “sort of hate” in a “this news is so terrible I wish I’d never read it” sort of way. In which case, I sort of hate most of the people who send me links (but please, keep them coming!).

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  3. Rachel

    I sort of hate your blog in exactly the way you define it. It makes me want to cry nearly every day.

    It’s not a serious intervention in masculinity that we need. It’s a serious intervention in humanity. I think a huge part of the problem of over-sexualized children / teenagers comes from the too-clear distinctions we make in gender and socially acceptable gendered behaviors. When we start teaching our children how to behave like humans, not how to be “manly” or “masculine” or “girly” or “feminine,” we might see some changes.

    Of course, that’s an idealistic viewpoint, and oversimplification of the problem. But I have to wonder why compassion and respect are such difficult concepts to teach?

    Rachel

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  4. rich

    I agree with mom; I’m not a fan of coming onto your site and reading things like this, not because of your writing, but because of the material you have to cover. This is about as a terrible an incident as it gets.

    “Prosecutors have not yet decided whether or not to try them as adults.” How the can you try 2nd and 3rd graders as adults??? Obviously there’s no justification for the rape, but incarceration for kids? I really hope these kids’ minds are not beyond psychiatric rehabilitation, though as you say, socio/psychopathic behavior isn’t exactly like getting over the flu.

    “The only thing I can imagine to be more unrealistic and utterly unbelievable than 8 and 9-year-old boys raping someone is that an 11-year-old girl would make up such a story and have anyone believe her unless she was highly credible and there was some sort of physical evidence.”

    That’s exactly what I thought; I truly hope the incident was somehow misconstrued and rape didn’t actually occur, but as you said, making up the story and having the D.A.’s office move on it is even less likely.

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