It seems like so many people have posted on this already — from Feministing, to Womanist Musings, to Yes Means Yes, to name only a few — but couldn’t let it just pass without comment. Because this is rape culture at its most explicit. Misogynistic views on sex backed up by authority.
Yarbrough is currently suspended for doing and saying a lot of illegal things:
Listing numerous accusations of improprieties ranging from falsifying police documents, to mandating the special treatment of student athletes, to teaching students illegal police tactics, several timid police officers say the President’s Office had plenty of alarming evidence to take action long ago but turned a blind eye to a handful of alleged abuses of power.
The list of those abuses includes telling students that as a police officer he would give informants illegal drugs in exchange for information, and bragging about how he would physically beat suspects — as well as this:
The lecture that inspired him to gather recordings, Gropp said, was one in which he says Yarbrough told the class “women want the dick, even when they say ‘no.’ They want the dick.”
There are, of course, a lot of things that concern me about this comment, especially coming from a police officer. There’s the fact that it gives me every reason to believe that Yarbrough is sexually violent himself. There’s the fact that impressionable kids are hearing this in their classrooms, coming from an authority figure — words stating that it’s okay to commit rape, because women like it anyway. And there’s the fact that he was overseeing the conduct of other officers.
But what actually concerns me most, when I hear this? The fact that women were going to Yarbrough to report rapes committed against them. Expecting support and feeling traumatized, they were instead met with this man. I can’t even imagine what that must have been like.
While I think that it’s a problem that Yarbrough is currently only suspended, that it took so long, and that he’s still being paid to sit around and be an asshole, I also, like Marcella, do commend the fact that action was taken at all. And I’m rather impressed that the statement above, which promotes rape, was the reason that the investigation began.
“In my book he just kind of condoned rape,” Gropp said. “I was just floored … that was when I decided to start recording things and file a complaint.”
Frankly, though the shockingly misogynistic and rape apologist nature of the comment seems clear as day to anyone who is willing to see the truth, far too many people — especially fellow-men who are listening to such a statement come from an apparent superior inside an institution built on patriarchal authority — would agree, laugh it off, or pretend they hadn’t hear it. So good for you, Aaron Gropp. Good for you.