As I said yesterday, referring to a man who allegedly raped his girlfriend while broadcasting the assault on the internet via webcam: the world just keeps getting more and more repulsive.
Today, we have a story of a man who allegedly sought out someone to rape his wife via a Craigslist ad. That would of course be more than enough to make this a horrific story, but unfortunately he also actually found someone to do it. The rapist assaulted the woman in her home while brandishing a knife, as her husband watched:
Police responded to the home at about 2:45 a.m. after receiving a 911 call indicating a male armed with a knife appeared in the couple’s bedroom and sexually assaulted the man’s wife, authorities said.
The man was present at the time of the assault, and two young children were in the home, but were unharmed and unaware of the incident, the police statement said.
“During the investigation, investigators interviewed the victim and her husband,” the statement said. “Investigators became suspicious when they noticed there was no sign of forced entry to the home. Investigators also developed information that led them to note specific inconsistencies in the initial statement provided by [the man].”
But on Tuesday, police found that the man “had responded to at least two personal ads on Craigslist.com in an effort to arrange for someone to come to his home and have sex with his wife using some type of scare tactic.”
“Investigators believe [he] arranged this incident without the knowledge or consent of the victim,” the police statement said.
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The man faces charges including first-degree rape, two counts of first-degree sexual offense and one count of attempted first-degree sexual offense, according to the police statement.
It is of course good news that the police have recognized that the man who contracted his wife’s rape is absolutely guilty of assault. And he should, without a doubt, be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.
But I’m also exceedingly concerned that I see nothing here about charges being laid against the man who entered the home and physically committed the assault. CNN doesn’t even bother mentioning a word about charges against him; the AP reports that police are looking for him but have declined to state whether or not they will press charges.
I sincerely hope that others find this as grossly disturbing as I do.
If this man penetrated the woman in any way, he is guilty of rape. Period. This is not complicated. The fact that the victim’s husband initiated the idea of the assault makes little difference with regards to whether or not the man is guilty. Nor does a single word that the husband said to him. The husband could have told all the lies in the world. “She likes it, she wants a stranger to come in with a knife and pretend to rape her.” Putting aside for the moment the transparency and sketchiness of such a statement, it doesn’t fucking matter. He didn’t get direct consent from the woman. And that makes this rape. He should be charged with rape.
Though I’m totally pleased with the concept of the husband being charged with rape as well, he is not guilty of rape on the other man’s behalf. Rather, the guilt is split among them.
I know that this is going to sound real crazy and, like, totally radical. But. Men don’t own their wives. Really, they don’t! I know it’s hard to stay up to date, but it’s been this way for a few years now. And so, if women are not property, our husbands can not legally sell us off to other men. Which, regardless of whether or not any money changed hands, is essentially what these men attempted to do. Seemingly the police have gotten this point enough to realize that what the husband — the seller — did was wrong, but not enough to realize that the rapist — the buyer — is equally culpable. But guess what. He is.
On the face of it, it seems that it’s absolutely impossible to make anything about this story any more outrageous and stomach-turning. But if the man who physically committed the rape gets away uncharged, the Kannapolis will have managed to do precisely that.